Comments on: The Women Who Have Been Known As The Pastors Wife http://lyn.lifeshapedfaith.com/2007/04/the-women-who-have-been-known-as-the-pastors-wife/ a journal on my journey with Jesus, and the paths in which God is taking me. Mon, 01 Dec 2008 18:25:07 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: lynhallewell http://lyn.lifeshapedfaith.com/2007/04/the-women-who-have-been-known-as-the-pastors-wife/#comment-392493 lynhallewell Wed, 26 Nov 2008 14:08:45 +0000 http://lyn.lifeshapedfaith.com/?p=143#comment-392493 Hi Patty, Thanks for your comment. I am still amazed by how many people out there still comment on this post some 18 months on. It certainly can be a lonely journey - the venting thing is the biggy - where do you turn?. I pray that things get easier for you. Hi Patty,

Thanks for your comment. I am still amazed by how many people out there still comment on this post some 18 months on. It certainly can be a lonely journey - the venting thing is the biggy - where do you turn?. I pray that things get easier for you.

]]> By: lynhallewell http://lyn.lifeshapedfaith.com/2007/04/the-women-who-have-been-known-as-the-pastors-wife/#comment-392492 lynhallewell Wed, 26 Nov 2008 14:06:02 +0000 http://lyn.lifeshapedfaith.com/?p=143#comment-392492 Hi Traceelee, I did reply to your comment but it seems to have got deleted - not sure why. Here goes again! I just wanted to thank you for your encouraging words, and you are right that we should stay focused on Jesus. Bless you on your journey :-) Hi Traceelee,

I did reply to your comment but it seems to have got deleted - not sure why. Here goes again! I just wanted to thank you for your encouraging words, and you are right that we should stay focused on Jesus.

Bless you on your journey :-)

]]> By: Patty http://lyn.lifeshapedfaith.com/2007/04/the-women-who-have-been-known-as-the-pastors-wife/#comment-390449 Patty Sun, 23 Nov 2008 08:14:40 +0000 http://lyn.lifeshapedfaith.com/?p=143#comment-390449 Thanks for your message. I was just unable to sleep, thinking about how I almost hate going to church anymore. You really hit the nail on the head with this piece. I wish every member of the the congregation could read this posting. You see, what the congregation fails to realize is that the best way to keep the Pastor is to keep the Pastor's wife happy. I feel that while people smile and greet me, they mainly never take the time to get to know me personally, or care about our family. Yes, we have made an effort to get to know people, but they mainly care only about the Pastor and what I am doing to serve. The expectations are not the same in any other profession. You can't really vent to anyone, and have to live on a meager salary We are underappreciated! Thanks for your message. I was just unable to sleep, thinking about how I almost hate going to church anymore. You really hit the nail on the head with this piece. I wish every member of the the congregation could read this posting. You see, what the congregation fails to realize is that the best way to keep the Pastor is to keep the Pastor’s wife happy. I feel that while people smile and greet me, they mainly never take the time to get to know me personally, or care about our family. Yes, we have made an effort to get to know people, but they mainly care only about the Pastor and what I am doing to serve. The expectations are not the same in any other profession. You can’t really vent to anyone, and have to live on a meager salary We are underappreciated!

]]> By: traceelee http://lyn.lifeshapedfaith.com/2007/04/the-women-who-have-been-known-as-the-pastors-wife/#comment-366069 traceelee Sun, 02 Nov 2008 10:05:15 +0000 http://lyn.lifeshapedfaith.com/?p=143#comment-366069 Hey lyn and all the other pasters wives out there. I have been a ministry wife for 22 yrs. I so get your pain,hurt,and confusion. It is a hard road.A lonely road. What we have to remember is it is not the critics or the parishoners or the really annoying people that we have to be nice to that is our opposition, it is satin and his workers. He only wants our demise. So keep praying that our lord jesus will be our constant friend through every hard,bitter,angry,blessed moment.Ask Jesus ,the conquerer ,to keep upholding us to the end and give us the strength,courage and love to face the foe for his sake, that many more will come into a relationship with jesus and be saved. bless you all, and thank you lyn, it means alot to know I am not the only one with hidden tears and scars on this lonely road!! Hey lyn and all the other pasters wives out there.
I have been a ministry wife for 22 yrs. I so get your pain,hurt,and confusion. It is a hard road.A lonely road.

What we have to remember is it is not the critics or the parishoners or the really annoying people that we have to be nice to that is our opposition, it is satin and his workers. He only wants our demise.
So keep praying that our lord jesus will be our constant friend through every hard,bitter,angry,blessed moment.Ask Jesus ,the conquerer ,to keep upholding us to the end and give us the strength,courage and love to face the foe for his sake, that many more will come into a relationship with jesus and be saved. bless you all, and thank you lyn, it means alot to know I am not the only one with hidden tears and scars on this lonely road!!

]]> By: lynhallewell http://lyn.lifeshapedfaith.com/2007/04/the-women-who-have-been-known-as-the-pastors-wife/#comment-361341 lynhallewell Wed, 29 Oct 2008 20:32:43 +0000 http://lyn.lifeshapedfaith.com/?p=143#comment-361341 Hi Gloria, thanks for stopping by. I really agree with what you wrote. Bless you. Hi Gloria, thanks for stopping by. I really agree with what you wrote. Bless you.

]]> By: gloria http://lyn.lifeshapedfaith.com/2007/04/the-women-who-have-been-known-as-the-pastors-wife/#comment-361208 gloria Wed, 29 Oct 2008 17:42:30 +0000 http://lyn.lifeshapedfaith.com/?p=143#comment-361208 Found your blog through another blog. I, too am a pastor's wife and also a licensed minister. I just couldn't conform to the image some people have, many of the things you wrote about. People pleasing is a never ending job and you can never perfect it. I encourage all pastor's wives I come in contact with to be themselves. Seek to please God, learn to graciously say no, and remember you are first a wife and mother than a pastor's wife. Found your blog through another blog. I, too am a pastor’s wife and also a licensed minister. I just couldn’t conform to the image some people have, many of the things you wrote about. People pleasing is a never ending job and you can never perfect it. I encourage all pastor’s wives I come in contact with to be themselves. Seek to please God, learn to graciously say no, and remember you are first a wife and mother than a pastor’s wife.

]]> By: The Pastors Wife Syndrome « neo-baptist http://lyn.lifeshapedfaith.com/2007/04/the-women-who-have-been-known-as-the-pastors-wife/#comment-360911 The Pastors Wife Syndrome « neo-baptist Wed, 29 Oct 2008 09:54:48 +0000 http://lyn.lifeshapedfaith.com/?p=143#comment-360911 [...] The Pastors Wife Syndrome October 29, 2008 Posted by Gordon in Pastor's Stuff. Tags: Australian Baptist, Baptist blog, Baptist blogger, Baptist Union, Christian blog, church, clergy wives, pastors spouse, Pastors wife, pastors wives trackback I read this gut wrenching account of what it is like to be a pastors wife from a great blog called Beyond The Four Walls.  The comment comes from a post entitled: The Women Who Have Been Known As The Pastors Wife. [...] [...] The Pastors Wife Syndrome October 29, 2008 Posted by Gordon in Pastor’s Stuff. Tags: Australian Baptist, Baptist blog, Baptist blogger, Baptist Union, Christian blog, church, clergy wives, pastors spouse, Pastors wife, pastors wives trackback I read this gut wrenching account of what it is like to be a pastors wife from a great blog called Beyond The Four Walls.  The comment comes from a post entitled: The Women Who Have Been Known As The Pastors Wife. [...]

]]> By: lynhallewell http://lyn.lifeshapedfaith.com/2007/04/the-women-who-have-been-known-as-the-pastors-wife/#comment-327043 lynhallewell Sun, 31 Aug 2008 10:25:30 +0000 http://lyn.lifeshapedfaith.com/?p=143#comment-327043 Thank you so much. Thank you so much.

]]> By: Amie http://lyn.lifeshapedfaith.com/2007/04/the-women-who-have-been-known-as-the-pastors-wife/#comment-266710 Amie Fri, 27 Jun 2008 17:04:17 +0000 http://lyn.lifeshapedfaith.com/?p=143#comment-266710 Lyn, I posted this on womenbeyond.com a while ago - as you know. Recently, I received an email from a woman who felt that she was alone and felt inspired to keep holding on because of what you wrote. She is not the only positive feedback that I've gotten, you've had quite a bit of good responses. She does strike me as someone who would benefit from the support that only women in her circumstance (as Pastor's wives) could offer her. When I respond to her, may I offer her your email address and if so, what is your email address (lol!). If you are open to her contacting you and want to keep your email address private, please send your info to my email: womenbeyondadmn@aol.com Your sharing your heart has been a blessing for many. Amie Lyn,

I posted this on womenbeyond.com a while ago - as you know. Recently, I received an email from a woman who felt that she was alone and felt inspired to keep holding on because of what you wrote.

She is not the only positive feedback that I’ve gotten, you’ve had quite a bit of good responses. She does strike me as someone who would benefit from the support that only women in her circumstance (as Pastor’s wives) could offer her.

When I respond to her, may I offer her your email address and if so, what is your email address (lol!). If you are open to her contacting you and want to keep your email address private, please send your info to my email: womenbeyondadmn@aol.com

Your sharing your heart has been a blessing for many.

Amie

]]> By: Andrea http://lyn.lifeshapedfaith.com/2007/04/the-women-who-have-been-known-as-the-pastors-wife/#comment-211206 Andrea Mon, 19 May 2008 20:34:07 +0000 http://lyn.lifeshapedfaith.com/?p=143#comment-211206 Thanks for writting this! I have been an actual "pastor's wife" for about 2 years now, however, we were volunteer youth leaders for many years prior to my husband getting the position. I feel for what Lyn said and I understand it completely, even after just 2 years! To make things worse for me, I am also the church secretary. Thanks for writting this! I have been an actual “pastor’s wife” for about 2 years now, however, we were volunteer youth leaders for many years prior to my husband getting the position. I feel for what Lyn said and I understand it completely, even after just 2 years! To make things worse for me, I am also the church secretary.

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